On abiding, marriage and tough jobs

If we were to meet for some iced tea. I can imagine it would be on my back porch. You could sit on the sofa and I would sit on a chair, or in the grass.


I would tell you that God has been working on my heart lately. He is reminding me to abide in Him. It is something I have to be reminded of constantly. I wish I was quicker to understand sometimes. I wish it came easy. I wish it was just natural to walk with Him day in and day out, but it just…isn’t.

So, I’ve been working on abiding.

I might ask what you have been up to. What God is working on in your heart. Or, if you don’t know God, I might ask how your life is going.

Happy Family

Can’t you tell what an amazing mom I am?

I might also tell you that I am doing great as a mama, but struggling a little as a wife. I miss my husband. It seems like whenever we get time together to just be alone, one of us falls asleep (that would be me).


If you are married, I might ask how your marriage is going. If you are single, I might ask how your contentment is going (I’ve so been there).

Alas, we would have to stop talking sooner than we wanted because inevitably, someone would need their mama back.


It’s a tough job, but I love it!

Leave a comment below and let me know about you. How are you doing? How is life going for you?

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  1. Tausha says:

    Well, I would totally be barefoot in the grass! We have a tiny little city garden, but it is our place to rest at the end of day while the kids are playing with their friends.

    God is such a wonderful and patient God. I’m lucky, because…well…I believe I can be very “trying” at times! In the past 8 years I have been drifting along in my faith without putting any effort into it…but…that’s not what I wanted. In the past month or so, God has finally gained my attention again and put it on my heart that I need to spend more time with Him. And I have! And I am so much happier and content now! In the past month I started to read my 1 year Bible again–and I am already into March–I suddenly can’t get enough of it! I just finished the book, Lord, Change Me! and it had a lot of great advice in it including on HOW to read your Bible and hear God talking to you directly. Ya. And…some of the stuff he has been telling me is hard to hear…

    …how long will you refuse to humble yourself before me? Exodus 10:3.

    …the work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone. Exodus 19:18
    For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7
    Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. Matt. 26:41
    I confess my iniquity; I am troubled by my sin….Psalm 39:1
    …O Lord, come quickly to help me. Psalm 40:13
    …would not God have discovered it, since he knows the secrets of the heart? Psalm 44:21
    Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you….Psalm 55:22

    Ya. So everything I read was very specific to me and where I was at that time. God is good. I am so excited to this revival he has breathed into me.

    I have also been working on being a better wife to my husband. I know I have been coasting with him as well and that isn’t right. I am now working on giving him more attention now that the kids are getting older (6, 7, 17) and don’t need as much constant care themselves. I don’t want him to feel neglected. It can be frustrating at times, since he isn’t saved.

    My kids, well, my oldest son (17) is in his last year of highschool. College is next year! How did this happen? WHEN did this happen? My younger son (7) is crazy about Star Wars, Pokemon and Scooby Doo. Typical little boy. All arms, legs and knobby knees. My daughter (6) is quite the firecracker. She can be very trying at times. We have even sought outside help because we need to learn to deal with it NOW and NOT when she is 16! She is the “Girl With the Curl”. When she is good, she is very, very good and when she is bad, she is horrid. lol BUT, she is only “trying” 5% of the time, so…I can’t complain too much. We just need to learn how to adapt and what works for Jessie.

    Well, I guess we have spent enough time in your backyard Becky, thanks for the drink and the listening ear. Sometime you will have to “join me” in my garden and we can have another chat!

    God bless,


    • Beauty for ashes says:

      Tausha, Thank you so much for joining me on the porch! It was a delight to have you 🙂 Isn’t it amazing how God waits and lingers for us to be ready for Him? He doesn’t ever push Himself on us, rather He waits until we call out for Him. What a Gentleman He is! I have been reading the book, Desiring God, by John Piper. Oh dear sister, I totally recommended it. It gives you a new way of thinking about God and delighting in our Savior.

      I hope you join me for a tea date again sometime!

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